How DeathWise Helped Me

More Capable and Calm

by Rudi O’Meara
Without DeathWise, I wouldn’t have had even the faintest glimmer of what an advanced care directive was—much less why I should have one in-place, even at 42. When I was recently rushed into emergency surgery, at least my wife and I knew what to ask our attorney for.

Without DeathWise it would’ve been a scramble. And one charged-up with all sorts of alarm and worry. Because, the whole idea had, in some ways, been de-stigmatized by what we’d learned on, we were just that little bit more capable and calm—even in the midst of planning for the worst.

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I Need Their Help

by Alex Gerson
When my best friend’s mother began to get close to death due to Alzheimer’s, I told her about DeathWise and she immediately said, “I need their help.”

DeathWise provided her with practical advice that she shared with her family to improve the decision making process and the family dynamic.

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Showing Up

by Mary Frances Allen
When our neighbor’s son died suddenly, I didn’t know what to do to help the family. Being reminded to “be present” and not worry about trying to say or do the exact right thing helped me a lot.

I made my favorite casserole and just showed up. That felt good, and I could see it was really appreciated by the family.

Now I get it that even if you can’t alleviate people’s pain in that situation, you can give them something not-painful to go along with it.

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Talking About Death

by JPB
My daughter and I both used the DeathWise Map Tool. It got us talking about what will happen when I die. We reviewed my finances and healthcare wishes. I discovered how important it was to her to have a memorial service after I die. It’s not a conversation we’d ever had before, and we both felt better afterwards.

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